Emily Continued...

I keep forgetting that people actually read this blog. When someone, that I haven't seen for a few weeks, comes up to me and says, "How is this Emily Thing going?" it catches me by surprise. I think, "How do you know about this Emily Thing?" and then I think, "Oh, that's right. I print Absolutely Everything in my Fucking Blog."

So, I thought I would drop you a quick email to let you know how things are going.

Well, "The Aloof Stratagem" actually seems to be working pretty well. Although days can go by without me calling her or emailing her, when we DO talk, she seems really interested and even adding information to keep the contact going. Last night, at our next-to-last class, she turned to me across the seating area and mouthed something to me. I had no idea what she was saying, but she sure looked cute. After class, she came up to me and said, "Can I call you in a bit? I have to tell you what just happened." I told her that she could and she said she would call me and I went back into my scene-study with my partner.
After class, I texted her to let her know that I was out of the theater. She called me immediately and we had a nice, long chat about how my intern was rude to her in class. (I missed the whole thing.) I really enjoyed talking to her. It was wonderful. But I didn't say that. I just hung back and let her drive and when there was a lull, I contributed to what she was saying. We ended up talking about other things and the call lasted nearly the whole bus ride. At the end, I could tell that she didn't want to stop talking. We ended the call and I fought the urge to send her a text telling her how wonderful I think that she is.

Today, I just got another call. Although it started out as a call about my intern and her scene, it shifted to talk about her upcoming travel plans and the job that she doesn't want anymore. not whining or anything, just open discussion about the job. (She's in ad sales and is OVER it, altogether.)

The whole time we were talking, all I could think was, "I REALLY want to see you before you leave for the weekend."
Instead, what I said was, "So, when do you fly out?"
She told me. Friday. In the afternoon. And then she said, "I guess I'll see you when I get back. Or I might call you before then and maybe we can get together."
I said, "I would really like that," as cooly as possible. I didn't say what I was thinking, which was, "Can we please? Can we? Can we? Can we? GOD! LET'S GET TOGETHER!"

According to the rules of "The Aloof Stratagem", the ball is in her court. She gets to decide when and where we see each other again. I am available and interested, but not pursuing. Which gives her a little room to decide how and when she would like to pursue me. As Jenn explained it to me, yesterday, "Nothing drives a girl crazier about a guy, than when you like him and you think that he likes you, but for whatever reason, he isn't calling you. You catch yourself picking up your phone and saying, I'll just call him real quick about this other thing and then you don't because you don't want to freak him out. I guarantee you, she's thinking about it, out there, wherever she is."

This shouldn't be working. It's entirely counter-intuitive. It's dishonest and mis-representational of who I am, what I feel and how I express myself. I am literally pretending to be someone other than who I am, to pique her interest.

But it's working. She's calling me. She seems to be interested. I very well might get to see her before she leaves for her vacation. Things actually seem to be progressing forward and we are getting closer.

I would be more resistant of this whole deception, if I didn't think she was absolutely wonderful. She's beautiful and smart and funny and sexy. She's confident and capable. I was thinking, as we had dinner on Sunday, "I could get used to having this beautiful person around, more often."

Let's hope that happens...

So, that's the update.

Cheers,
Mr.B



PS. Yesterday, Jenn also added. "It's ridiculous that I am having to teach you how to be aloof with girls. Most guys are experts at it. They can't help it. It's what they naturally do. What's wrong with you, that you have to fake it, in order to interest a girl? It's ridiculous."